Shawn Mendes, ‘Mercy’ & I

Shawn Mendes’s newly released music video for his song “Mercy,” which is currently my favorite jam, means a great deal to me personally. Watch it first and key in on the lyrics and the visuals. Then, continue to read on.

What do you think? Powerful, huh?

I’m thankfully starting to come out on the other side of two months of raw, genuine emotions I’ve never felt before, and during that time Mendes’s “Mercy” came into my life.

I’ve said it and written it before but no artist or song has ever spoken to how I’ve felt more so than Mendes and “Mercy.” Every lyric is what I’ve wanted to scream out loud and now with the music video how badly I’ve overthought everything is visualized.

What I’ve learned through this whole process and advice I’ll pass along going forward is when you begin to overthink and repress feelings, emotions find someone…anyone to confide in. It could be a friend, a parent or both parents, a brother, a sister, any family member for that matter, a therapist, a priest, even a pet, etc., etc. It doesn’t matter, as long as you let it out. By keeping it in, you can end up potentially causing harm to yourself mentally, and God forbid physically.

For me personally, in the past I’d never tell anyone what’s going on with me. I’d shun any sort of help because I’d think people would think of me differently. Well, news flash to me and anyone who’s reading this: if that thought crosses your mind, you don’t love yourself enough and whoever it is you’re worried about seeing you in a different light is no good for you.

Shawn Mendes looking directly into the camera after escaping his way out of his sinking car. (Photo posted by Mendes on his Twitter — @ShawnMendes.)

Love yourself first and foremost, it doesn’t make you selfish. To achieve that, it’s okay to open up to others because that’s what makes being a human being such a beautiful and incredible thing. Each of us experiences and perceives this one life we have in drastically different ways. Listening to what others have to say allows us to reflect on and improve upon ourselves for the better, so we can as individuals lend a helping hand later to someone else in need.

Another valuable lesson I’ve taken away from what I’ve dealt with is personal growth. How that’s done, in my recent experience, is something we in 2016 all struggle with: allowing time and patience. If something or someone truly amazing comes your way in life but for whatever reason everything seems to keep stopping it from becoming reality. It doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll never have it; it’s simply the world telling you slow down now’s not the time.

I wish I could be more specific and less vague as to what I’ve dealt with and what I’m still dealing with. However, it’s too, too personal. So I wanted to share something that may or may not be helpful, it could be a useless rant and waste of my time writing. But if for nothing else, I want this post to at least be one long thank you note to those few people I’ve told, and hopefully you know who you are. Without them taking the time to listen and to give their best thoughts of advice possible, I don’t know what I’d have done. Thank you is not even close to enough of a repayment.